Confident Body Language

Confident Body Language

You have probably heard that 70% of all communications is the body language. Think before someone even opens their mouth. We already start assuming what they are like just by the way they carry themselves.
How to look confident, attractive and have a respectable body language? This blog will cover everything from your feet to the expressions on your face. I hope by the end you will be sure that why certain type of body languages are good and why certain types are bad.

1) Feet and Legs

You have to make sure that your feet are your shoulder width apart with your toes pointing outward. Why? The rule that comes from body language is that closing up the body is associated with nervousness and fear. If someone is going to hit you, your instinct will be to close your body to cover your organs and genitals. Open body language on the other hand is associated with relaxed, calm and confident. So, having your feet apart and toes pointing outwards is open and while having inwards is closed.

2) Hand and Arms

Do not keep your hands in the pocket, do not cross them, do not have one hand holding the arm of other hand and if you are at a party do not have a drink covering your chest. All of these styles are form of closed body language. So, what should I be doing with my arms and hands instead? Its best to keep your hands at your side, relaxed, even if you have a drink or speaking with someone, you can use your hands to emphasize certain points. 

3) Chest

If you have to ask me about one part of the body that have most influence on how people perceive you, it would have to be the chest. This is actually the area where people have problems with, the most. A lot of us have that rounded shoulders. Our shoulders arc forward, past the neck largely due to our culture that is increasingly depending on computer usage. The ideal way to hold your chest is to have your chest outwards and your shoulders back.
For those of you, who have the problem due to a lot of computer usage there are many exercises that will help you straight your back and fix your shoulders.

4) Head

You should stand straight with your head in line with the rest of your body when you stand straight. Your head should be facing forward, you don’t have to tilt it down as it seems to be submissive, and don’t even tilt it up too much as it seems too arrogant.
The face has a large part on how people perceive you during interactions. There are two things you have to focus on:

a) Eye Contact:

Chances are that you are not making enough eye contact, especially if you are a male. Strong eye contact could be a huge indicator for confidence. You have met people who are totally normal but just could not maintain eye contact. This makes the interaction feel extremely uncomfortable and they come off as very unconfident. They magic ratio you have to maintain 80/20 rule. You have to spend your 80% of the time during a conversation making eye contact and 20% of the time, letting your eye wander. This way you seem very confident, very interested in what the other person is saying but at the same time you don’t have to come up as creepy.

b) Smile:

Do not have one, giant teeth showing smile, plastered on your face 24/7 because it seems nervous. These smiles seem forced and fake instead its best to have a settled grind like you have a good day. This will project an oral happiness, seems genuine and not a forced. It is good to have a smile with your teeth but save it for some special occasions.

5) How to Move Your Body?

The slower you move the more confident you seem. A lot of us are prone to fast fijity movements, we like to touch our face or play with our hands, this shows you are nervous. The reason we want to stay away from nervousness so much is because emotions get transferred, if you are nervous the people you are interacting with will feel uncomfortable as well. They feel as if something is wrong and this hinders your overall likeability.
How slow should we move? move pretty slow without it looking weird just don’t move too slow like you are in the matrix.

6) Space

Lastly, the more space you take up the more comfortable and confident you seem. When you are at a desk, spread your belongings don’t be afraid of having some space between your phone and notebook but don’t be a guy who takes up three seats to spread his bookbag and jacket. When you are sitting, don’t be afraid with your legs apart. Drape your arms on the chair next to you if its empty, don’t be afraid to open up your body.